The tentacles of patriarchy
Even in those things that we do with greater freedom to reflect on a dilemma that is presented, the patriarchal ideology involved. To explain the subtle ways women have naturalized, and needless to say that the men, the role that falls to us, transcribe an excerpt from Carol Gilligan With a different voice.
In a study that answered the same questions a boy and a girl of 11 years
when responsibilities conflict with oneself and with others How to choose?
Jake, is devoted quarter to the other, and three quarters to oneself.
Amy: Well, it depends on the situation. If I have a responsibility to someone else, then I meet with her to some degree, but to the point where it really is not going to harm me or stop me from doing something I really want, then you may need to put myself first. But if our responsibility is for someone who is really close to me, I have to decide in such a situation what is most important, myself or that person and, as I said, it really depends on what kind of person is and what you feel toward each other person or others.
Why?
Jake: Because most important decision should be yourself, not be guided entirely by others, but they must be taken into consideration. So, if you want to do is blow itself with a nuclear bomb, perhaps best to blow with a hand grenade because you have to think also about our neighbors who also die.
Amy: Well, some get primarily to themselves and their things before others. I do not think employment is as important as someone we, as spouse or parent, or a close friend. Someone you really want, or if it's just our responsibility to our work or to someone you barely know, then maybe Once one can see first ... but if someone really want as much or more than us, then we really decide what we want more, that person, that thing, or ourselves.
And how you do that?
Amy: Well, you think, you have to think on both sides of the case and you have to think what would be best for everyone, or rather for one, which is more important, and that will leave everyone happy. As an example, if others can get another to do it, whatever it is, or if you do not really need us, it might be best to do what we want, because others will be equally well with someone else and so be happy, and then also we shall be happy because we did what we wanted.
I can not be clearer. Everyone responds according to the education she has received on the basis of sex. He raw autonomy and individual freedom has to do whatever they want without harming others. She
. We have been taught to care for others, to try to keep everybody happy, that nobody could be damaged because she does what she wants. And if for that has to be damaged it is justified, and is of public recognition. I'm sick of hearing phrases such as I want that job has not great that they offered in San Francisco with a smile. And next, she resigned, thinking about all evenings of study and four years of doctoral thesis, clinging to her man.
And she has chosen freely, a freedom educated to give up some type of dreams. Because every woman's dream, "says the manual, is not success, but is familiar. I hear from friends What if I leave? Or what would I do without him there? And that's exactly what some people think. Without them we could not be. Without them, though the rest of our life is being great, we are not happy.
and are judged ourselves as women, do-because the autonomy and dare to break the role of caregiver for everyone but herself. It makes us feel bad to make decisions that we take for the consequences they have on those around us. But if we import really would be the first to tell the truth, go ahead. Speak out in full and without resentment. Want the best for those who want even if it hurts. So women are to blame bags and dreams down the street. So leave their jobs to care for her mother obviously can not do his brothers, although they all admire for his dedication, and if they do what they want are selfish only think of them.
I'm sick of Christianity has come so into minds that are declared as atheist. Guilt and remorse, the woman and man against nature cultural. She passionate and the rational. Everything is education. Apparently many believe to have overcome what has been said, but not stopped. Do not stop the accusations of one form or another, and everything is fine, but it reflects the same sentiment of disapproval towards the empowerment of women. Enough of self-sacrifice. Just
